I’m graduating from college in just one month. Thirty-three days, to be precise. I’m not sure where the time went exactly, or how I’m supposed to become a real-life, functioning adult, but it’s headed towards me at full speed and there’s nothing I can do to stop it. Currently, I’m trying my very best to latch on to these last few weeks, and I can’t help but constantly reflect upon the greatest lesson I’ve learned thus far.

Allow me to clarify: The greatest lesson wasn’t one I read from a book or learned from a professor. It wasn’t about how…


It was awful. There were moments when my heart would sink so deep into my chest I could feel it in my stomach. Moments when I cried so much and so hard that I could feel my head pounding. Moments when I would wonder if the hurt would ever go away or if I would ever feel okay again. Truthfully, “okay” became such a distant memory that I think I forgot what it felt like completely.

Every day would bring a new struggle, a new adversity, a new sense of uncertainty that made it hard to take a deep breath…


There are points in our lives when it just seems like nothing’s going right. The days drag by and we feel as if we’re stuck in a never ending cycle of dealing with one obstacle after the next. We’re sad more often than not, and we just can’t figure out why. We just want to feel good again and find ourselves wondering if our lives will ever get better.

I’ve learned that while life does get better, we’re the ones responsible for making it better. We have to get up, wipe away the tears, and do whatever it takes to…


Be thankful for the ones who broke your heart, for the ones who put you down, for the ones who told you that you couldn’t do it.

They’re the reasons you realized you could.

It’s way too often that we find ourselves overwhelmed by our negative feelings, consumed in the moment of something that we perceive to be so awful, so unsettling, so life-changing, that we fail to see beneath the surface. We become too preoccupied with these negative feelings that we’re blinded from the importance of the moments causing the feelings themselves, and we fail to see that there’s way more to them. We fail to see that, although in the moment it seems like our world is caving in, it’s actually doing just the opposite…


It’s unacceptable that we have forgotten to look at the bigger picture, the one that was made possible only by working together. We, as girls and women, made today the way it is by building one another up and cheering each other on; by supporting and standing by one another, by lending a shoulder to cry on when things got tough, and by never, ever turning our backs on one another.

We’ve all been the occasional bitch that’s seen a picture on Instagram and said something like, “Omg, she looked way better before” or “There’s no way that’s not photoshopped.” We’re humans, we process and perceive everything even when we’re not trying to. But when it becomes a constant chorus of “she is such a slut” or “ew, she’s so ugly,” it changes people. They’renot s tupid. They hear the things other girls say about them, they realize when girls are staring and laughing. They understand the silence that presents itself right when they enter the conversation. …


My room isn’t always neat and I sometimes forget to wash my face before bed. I stay up way later than I should and my laundry occasionally comes out pink because I forgot to put the washing machine on “cold”. I’ll run out of the house without making my bed, and I’ve definitely devoted an unhealthy amount of dinners to Mac & Cheese. I procrastinate doing my work at times and often say I’m going to the gym but end up watching Netflix instead. These instances are what some might call “being lazy” or “irresponsible”.

See, at such a young…

Brittney Adler

Just a girl who loves making people happy.

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